back pain, crash landing, crashdlanding, illness, little things, Make Someone Smile, Mental Health, non-fiction, nonfiction
This post is about how sometimes we do things to make other people smile, because it makes us feel good.
My own mom died four years ago. I miss her terribly and I think of her constantly. In my dreams she’s almost always alive. Sometimes she’s sick. Sometimes she happy. Once in a while she’s mad at me.
I work with a girl named Abby. She’s a good kid. She friendly and fun to talk too. Abby doesn’t drive so her mom brings her too and from work, and has been for ages.
Abby’s mom’s name is Robin. Robin reminds me of my mom. She’s friendly and always seems bright when I see her.
Turns out she has been parking behind me for ages. Abby and I work the same shift, so we get off around the same time. Nine times out of ten, I’m late, but once in a while I see the both as I’m leaving work.
It quickly became a silly inside joke that Robin always parks behind me if the space is open. So I told Abby one day, “You know what? I’m gonna use my Cricut, and I’m gonna make a sticker for the back of my truck that says, ‘Hi, Robin!’“
Abby said she’s get a kick out of it. I don’t know if Abby thought I’d actually do it.
But I did. I cut the sticker about a week ago, when I was making my own earring cards. I already had the Cricut out so I figured I’d do it.
I remembered to put it on yesterday. Abby didn’t work yesterday. I saw her today.
“Abby, let me show you something.” I showed her the sticker on the truck. She laughed and said her mom would love it (Robin likes frogs). I told her to be sure to let me know her reaction.
This evening, I was talking to my nephews, who showed up at my work, and Abby walked up. Apparently, she had something to show me.
Robin and videoed herself reacting to the sticker. The video was basically of the back of my truck and the sticker, with her giggling and gleeful in the background. I think all three of us were ecstatic over the whole thing.
Of course, some random stranger is gonna wonder, “why in the world?!” But it’ll be our inside joke.
Here’s the kicker.
Yesterday, I gave my mind permission to dwell intrusively on my past mistakes and failures. The combination of that and having been sick for a week or more, and back issues for three weeks, I was most definitely in a bad place.
I was to the point where I was being short with The Kid, and looking back, even hours later after she’d gone to bed I felt terrible about it.
To be honest I just wanted nothing more than to crawl in a cave and never come out. That way all the things that trigger me wouldn’t be a factor.
But then, the next day, I made someone happy. I made someone smile. I did that. I can do something, and that something, is make someone smile. It’s a little thing, yes. But it’s something, and despite still being sick (I have medicine now), I made my entire evening.
So, go out. Make someone smile. I bet you’ll feel good too.
Thanks for reading.